Hey, everybody, welcome back to the Covenant Eyes podcast. We're so glad to have you joining us for this special Voices of Victory episode. We have got an amazing guest joining us. It is someone who has an a unique and a very challenging past, but a beautiful, redemptive future. Her name is Yammy Alexis Fernandez, and she has got a story that is unbelievable. She actually has, broken generational curses of witchcraft, abuse and pornography addiction. And she has got a testimony that is absolutely moving and yummy. We are so glad to have you joining us today. Thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited and honored to be here. Yeah, absolutely. And for our listeners, can you walk us through a little bit of your testimony and your journey, please? Yes, of course. So I was actually born in Cuba, and, my mom and dad, were married when they had me. And when they separated, my mom started the process, which in Cuba is called El Bombo. I don't know if you've heard of it before, so it's kind of like a lottery kind of vibe. For your freedom. Oh, wow. So it's like a program that they used to have where you can apply to win visas. To come to the States. Okay. So my mom had applied, when I was, like, really little. And then she heard back four years later. Wow. And so when she heard back, I was six years old. We left Cuba. My dad stayed there and she was already remarried and she had had my sister. And so when we got to the States, it was really hard for me because it was already hard. I'm sure anybody that has parents that are not together, you go through the challenge of like going back and forth between houses. You don't really know where you fit in. Sometimes you feel like it's your fault. You don't understand what's going on. And so when we got to the States, we moved a lot. By the time I graduated, we had moved 20 times. Oh, wow. And my mom became a single mom when I was in sixth grade. Because my stepfather, he was just really abusive, verbally. Physically to my mom, sexually to me. And there is this a lot, like, of alcoholism. Just darkness. Like, when I think of just my first few years of life, like, it was like, you can even see it in pictures. When I look back, I'm like, wow, you can kind of see my smile, like, fade over the years where you just don't see, like that child, like joy. And so by the time I got to middle school, I had seen a lot of abuse, a lot of alcohol, a lot of brokenness and witchcraft as well, because Cuba, as most people know, is huge with Santeria. It is a mixture of kind of like Catholicism and like, Yoruba religion, which comes from African like roots. And so there's a lot of witchcraft in like even it's offensive to people when you say that because you're like, oh, that's not witchcraft. It's like, well. You know, any way that we connect to God in the way that they go about it is, is not the way that the Lord intense. And so I, we lived literally, it was just a spiritual climb. It was crazy. Right next to us was, someone that was deeply involved in the occult. And she was like my godmother. And then right across from us was an at home small Christian church. Wow. And so it. Was like crazy. Like, I look back and I'm like, this is not like, you see the battle of, like, light and darkness. And so, yeah, when my, I told my mom about the abuse, I was in sixth grade and I, we she left. And I'm so grateful for that. And I honor all the moms that have been in a position like that to actually leave the situation and protect their children. And so, yeah. And then after that, I started middle school and I think I was set up for failure, honestly, like, I, when I started middle school, I was so full of depression, so full of anxiety and I kind of can paint the picture in the way of like a person, like, yes, there's a physical prison on this earth that you can go to, but some of us were able to leave that abuse. We're able to leave the situation we were in and live in a mental prison. And that mental prison is like that shame, that fear, that guilt, that like, what's wrong with me? And so because of my, like, broken identity, I got into a relationship right away, in middle school that lasted five years. And this person was also not the best, who was very addicted to pornography. And just led me in, like a really dark path as well. And so, yeah, I, I started smoking, I started, going out like, you know, drinking and stuff, and I was just really struggling. And my mom, which I can imagine now being an adult, was probably like, in shambles. Like, I mean, a broken relationship, another broken relationship. And then the. Guilt. Of, like, how could this happen in my own house? It turned her to things that maybe, I'm sure. Now she looks back and says, I wish I would have turned to those things. Yeah. And so I think my mom was just on her own journey. And I love her and I honor her, and I know that that's her story. But it was hard because my dad's in Cuba. My mom's kind of just battling with certain things. And my little sister is, you know, we're kind of getting. We're like, lost. You know, we don't really have the parenting or the direction. So I was able to just do whatever you know. And by the time I graduated high school, I had been through two other sexual abuse moments. I dated someone that was way older than me, and he, like, pushed certain boundaries that made me feel very uncomfortable. And, then there was another situation. So literally like I felt like sexual the sexual abuse in a sexual trauma, like it never ended. So when I finally turned 17 and 18, around that time, I had been to youth group a few times, got invited from someone in my dance class in high school, and, I was just like, really, promiscuous. I was just really broke and lost, battling with pornography, battling with a lot of sexual trauma a lot. And, I didn't understand how it was affecting my world, but I. Could. See now, looking back, it, like, lingered for years. Even as I started my Christian walk. I would struggle more than others in this area. And I was literally crying about this other day, like as I was on my way to church because I was wrestling with God about it, and I was like, why did you let me go through this? Like, I don't understand why you let me go through it. Like, I feel like sometimes I, I go through these mental battles that I. Think others don't understand. And it feels like I feel like anybody can understand and relate to this in their story, in their testimony. There's certain parts of your story that you're like, this has been the hardest thing for me to overcome. And even when I met my husband and we started dating, it was really hard for me to like walking pretty. And we did by the grace of God. And we struggled and we had moments where we, like, had to repent her to God. But we were able to wait and that was really hard. And I felt like, man, why is this area such a pain for me and so hard for me? And I've learned through my story. And the word testimony is that there is. A big test. Yeah. And that test, most of. Us would. Never choose it. Yeah, most of us would rather someone else go through it. Yet God allows us to go through those things. I think honestly, to humble our hearts in full dependance of him and to allow ourselves to say like, no matter where I'm at in my life, unfortunately, this is a part of my story. I can't change that. I can't go back and change my childhood. I can't go back and change the decisions that I've made because of the affects on my child it had on me. But I can choose to try my best to meet those girls, meet those people that are in those positions and say, I know it's not easy. I know it's really hard, but some where some way there's going to be light through your story and there's going to be people that are like, wow, like, thank you for sharing that. Thank you for giving me a space to know that I'm not alone. And it's not the trauma bond, but it's to bond on the goodness of God and to bond on his his faithfulness and to bond on the fact that he never left us. He never desired for most of us to go through these things. It's the effects of sin on this world. But that abuse, that trauma, whether you were the one that committed it or whether you were on the receiving end or both. There's I know we're going to unpack it through this podcast, but there's grace, there's his love, and there's healing available for you. It may not happen overnight. I can promise you it's probably not going to happen overnight. And that journey, like daily, will help you to depend on God, depend on each other, people. And just see his his strength built in you. So, yeah, just a little bit. Of my story. Wow. I thank you for sharing that. I think, it is important for us to share our stories because like you said, there are so many people that are going through similar situations and maybe listening to this podcast and feeling for the first time in a long time, a sense of hope. So I as a mom, my heart is just breaking for your story. You know, the things you had to endure. But I can see that God is using that pain and that test harmony and transforming it into something beautiful. And and you have done some amazing things with your ministry, with your work, and reaching young people. So thank you and thanks for sharing that and being vulnerable. Thank you. Yeah. Well that's a lot. That's a lot for someone to go through in their their early formative years. And you know, you're you're on a journey. So I want to unpack that a little bit because I think there's a lot of listeners to this podcast that, you know, maybe have been on this journey for what seems like a lifetime. And it just goes on and they're just not finding that freedom. What are some pieces of advice that you have for people who just feel really desperate and alone? Yeah, I, I've been learning a lot recently about this because it's crazy. Like, I think the closer you get to God, God. The more you realize, like. Wow, there's like a lot of stuff. In me right where I gotta go. And you feel kind of like lonely in that process because you don't really get to see people's mass. I mean, honestly, unless you're, like, married and then. You're like, yeah, you see me, you know? Which is great. Because it it kind of brings that humanity like it opens your eyes to be like, oh, yeah. Like we're all human. We all make mistakes, we all fall short. But I think, like, I've been learning a lot recently, that when you feel that lonely feeling, when you feel like, man, how am I going to walk through this? Like, how am I going to get through this when it feels like I take one step forward and ten steps back? It's just continue to show up every day. Like literally just okay. Yesterday may have sucked. Yesterday, I may have given in to that thought pattern that I thought like I wouldn't. Yeah. And then forgive yourself and be like and it's so hard. It's literally like it's so hard to do. Oh yeah. Because we'll be ourselves up and we'll be like, oh, I thought I was over this. Like I thought I wasn't going to struggle with this anymore. I feel so alone. I thought had made progress. And then a new challenge and a new test, a new thing comes in. You're like, okay, here I am again, like. You know. So I, I've just had to learn like, I'm not perfect. I'm never going to be perfect. Right? I'm going to fall short. So I have to understand that I'm going to be in a constant wrestle in my walk with the Lord and I. I wrote this down because I'm sure you guys can relate to this, but you read the stories in the Bible and we're so quick to be like Paul and so inspiring. Or like David, he's like that guy, you know? But then you're like, when you see. Your story, you're like. Oh, me? Yeah, never. God could never use me. And so I think that when we look at these stories and we see like, hey, Paul had a messy past. I'm like, really? Like he literally murdered people like, you know, like, this is Christian. And yet, God, like, he's one of my favorite authors in the Bible. Yeah. But we'll look at ourselves and be like, no, like that. And I think it's because Christians were very quick to be really mean to each other. That's true. And so you recognize like oh this, this if, if my story were to be shared, if I were to share my testimony, if what I've done or what I've been through is going to be shared. Oh everybody would hate me, everybody would judge me. Yet God's that story of Paul. We look and we're like, this is so anointed. This is so powerful. So I just think it's important to recognize, like, if you're in ministry, if you have a past, if you feel alone, those things are constantly going to be used against you. It's going to be used against you. Like, and unfortunately, it's not going to be like when they read the Bible, they're going to forget that Paul had a past. They're going to forget that David had passed. They're going to forget that rehab had a past. But when they look at you, they're going to say, oh, Karen, you know, but not you. I remember you did this thing and that's how I'm going to define you. But so you have to know that's not how God defines you. And they're operating in a spirit that's not from the Lord. Right. They're operating in an accusing spirit. They're operating in a spirit that's not from the Lord. And there's a difference between them holding you accountable and you're repenting, turning from from those things to God. And now walking different, and you allowing that person to torment your mind to where you don't even walk in that freedom. And so the most important thing that you have to remember when you feel lonely and when you feel like there's no way that God can use me, is that did I truly repent? Right. If you did, then I remember one time I was in my prayer closet and I was talking to God and I was reminding him of this sin that I had committed him and he was like, I literally don't remember that. And I was like, what? He's like, yeah. You keep every single time you come to pray to me, you just bring me the same sin and you're allowing the enemy to accuse you and make you feel so. Lonely. When you could have been. Helping people and walking in freedom and so that that's my biggest like anchor is if you feel alone. Did you repent? If you did repent. Remember, none of us are worthy. He is worthy. Yeah. That's why we worship him. That's why we serve him. That's why I'm preaching here. Sitting on this microphone is not because I'm worthy. It's not because I deserve it. It's because of God's grace over my life. And so I'm sitting here by his grace. And when somebody accuses you, when somebody reminds you of your past, whether it's the enemy, a stranger, a family member, a friend, or your own mind, and you feel that loneliness, like weighing almost like a heavy blanket, you just take it off and you say, no, like I have to say this out loud, I am forgiven. Yes. God has called me and it's not because I'm worthy. It's because he's worthy. Yes. So I'm just going to do my best. And when I fall short, when I give in to that thought pattern, when I look at something I shouldn't have, when I go to those things that I shouldn't go to, I'm going to open up to a friend. I'm going to open up to my mentors. I'm going to humble myself in prayer and ask God to forgive me. Ask him to help me and just start to walk it out. That's beautiful. I love that, and I think a lot of people can relate to that because I know, when I was saved at 18 and I gave my life to Christ, I remember, you know, I was harder on myself than God was. He had forgiven me and redeemed me from my sins and from my struggles and from all the brokenness. But yeah, every time I'd be in prayer, I would keep bringing them up over and over again. And it's almost like in my mind, I could just feel the Lord, you know, saying to me, like, I've already forgiven you for that. You need to forgive yourself and move on. And, you know, there was things that you have to work through with trauma and different things like that. But I think a lot of us, that battle in our mind, that can sometimes be the hardest one because we are very, we're not quick, I guess, would be the right term to let those things go. And they linger, and it is the enemy using that against us. So I think that was really great that you shared that, that experience that you've had personally, because I've seen that as well. Well, let's let's talk a little bit. So, you know, in your, your journey, you've talked a lot about the grace that God has given you and each one of us when we're saved, we are we are gifted a grace that you know we don't deserve. We just don't deserve it. But he is so gracious and good. But you also talk about the need for accountability, right? We can't do this alone. So let's let's unpack that a little bit, because I think oftentimes when we're going through the path to freedom and recovery and we're growing and being sanctified, sometimes we feel like we need to walk that path alone. Maybe it's, you know, it's just too much. I don't want to burden other people with all my troubles or they're going to think badly of me. But really, that's what we need the most. So let's just unpack accountability and grace and how those two things kind of work together. Yeah, honestly, when I read that question, I was like, Karen. You did. You did a number on this is so good. I literally I was like, I am so stumped because it's. Such a complex. It is like. Honestly, Grace, we could literally talk about this for like, I mean, I feel like I talk a lot anyways, but I could we could talk about this for hours because it's so complex. So like, how does grace and accountability even sit in like that same sentence? But it's so when I started looking into it, I looked into Romans 520 and it says, now the law came in to increase the trespass, but where sin increased, grace abounded all the more. And to give a little context here, Paul is actually in the middle of a theological argument about sin, the law, and God's grace. And he has literally just explained the contrast between Adam and Christ, how through one man sin entered, but through another salvation entered. And in Romans five, that that's all impacted through Romans 512 through 19. So it shows Adam's disobedience through death. And then but Christ's obedience that brought life and the law here is referring literally to God's commandments that was given to Israel. And when you understand honestly reading this Scripture in context, so key. Yeah, because. It'll help you understand how it applies to your life. But what would the writer was trying to say? And so. The law. Was basically given to be able to expose and show us, like our sin. Right? If the law, if we didn't have literally just regular laws, we wouldn't. Know. What we shouldn't do. Right? And so that's available there to know. But it just made people accountable so that they can turn from sin. And so through that knowledge and through the law. Eight if we don't have that grace part. Yeah, like great, where it could literally you could get so. Stuck on like yourself. And I got to obey God's commands. I got to try not to sin. I got to try not to do this. I kind of tried to stay. And I'm going to hold myself accountable and I'm going to beat my flesh down. And honestly, I don't know if you've tried that before. Like doesn't work because the more you focus on yourself, the more you focus on trying to change behavior modification. The more you. Sin like, the more you struggle in sin. Rather than you focusing on God and you focusing on his grace, and you focusing on how much you love him. So then from that love, you're going to be obedient, to the Lord. And so accountability is not bad. It's good. And our actions do have consequences. Like, that's just the law. Like, you know what, we live. But those consequences is to wake us up sometimes. From. The way that we're going. Right? If we literally break the law, like if we speed in a couples is over, it's, I should wake. You up to be like, maybe I shouldn't need, you know, maybe I shouldn't do this. You know, now, I do not know how to pronounce this, but there's a Greek word here, hyper. Parousia. Or something. It literally is what is translated beyond all measure. Well. Beyond all, like literally think like beyond all measure. Where sin abounded, grace abounded beyond all measure. And so that means that grace super abounded. Overflows, surpasses the sin. So this is like a huge. Picture here of grace and accountability is that Paul is emphasizing God's grace is literally not equal to sin. Yeah, that's like that's freeing in and of itself. Yeah. To recognize my sin is not equal to God's grace, right? It can never be equal to God's grace, because his grace is going to overflow beyond measure. Like it's way bigger. Yeah. And when you know that you can recognize and say, no matter how deep the sin grace goes deeper, it's right now somebody's going to be like, she's a grace preacher. And that's not what I'm saying. Should we go on sinning so that grace may abound? Surely not. Romans six one. Good. But what it is saying is that his love is greater, his grace is deeper. And that should bring you into this humility of saying, what? Like what an amazing God we serve. Yeah, not like, oh, I'm so worthy. I'm so amazing. It should literally bring you to your knees and to deep. All of I don't deserve his grace. I could never earn his grace. Yet he literally poured it out over me. And he did that through his Son. Jesus was greater love. So when you recognize that you see how grace and accountability, they kind of go together. Yeah. And that accountability, it kind of flow from the place of your love for God. Your mom. Yeah. Right. So your kids, they obey you not because you make them obey you, not because you're going to tell them like they obey you because they love you. And they know you love them. Yes. So when we know God loves us and we love God too, then we recognize that his commandments are not a bunch of rules that we have to keep. They're not trying to keep us from having fun. They're not trying to keep us from, you know, living our best life. You know, like they're actually keeping us safe. They're actually helping us. To live. An abundant life. And so when you look at grace and accountability, my I want you to remember it's God's grace that we could be forgiven. It's our love for God that makes us want to obey God and be held accountable to him. Because ultimately, you're held accountable to God. You're going to be held accountable to him. That shouldn't make you afraid, but it should definitely put the fear of God in you to be like, okay, how do I live my life to honor him the best way I can with the power and the leading of the Holy Spirit to humble myself and say, I'm going to fall short. Your kids fall short, yet you still love them, and you're never going to stop loving them just because they fall short, you know? Especially if they fall short and they go to you and they say, hey, mom, I'm really sorry I did that. Like, I know I should have done that. And imagine they came to you every single week and they're like, I'm really sorry I did that five years ago. You'd be like, I already forgive you. Walk in my grace. Walk in my love. Now remember, don't go back and do that thing. Yes. Because you're free. Right. You don't need to go back to it. But you remember that his commandments are there for our good, and his grace is there for us to be able to walk in those. Yeah. Without like beating ourselves up every day. Absolutely. So good. Preach it sister. I love it. Let's pivot for a second. Let's talk a little bit because you're, you know, you're online. You're kind of, I guess, what we call a social media influencer, you know. That's I love it. I know I'm not an influencer guy. I know it's a funny thing like this, this whole industry of, people online making a difference. But the thing is, is that you're doing it to glorify and honor Christ in your messages. But I know that you come across a lot of young women online and maybe even, young girls that are struggling with the impacts of technology, social media comparison that is like such a real thing. And if you know, if they're struggling with that and, you know, they're being exposed to pornography and all the other things that technology is bringing into their life, what what advice do you have for them and what hope can you share with them? Yeah. So first I just, I want to remind you girls that this is probably one of the biggest attacks that you're going to face in your life. I think as little girls, I mean, it's all over the media. Yeah. You need to be skinnier. You need to be smarter. You need to have a bigger butt or a smaller waist or. No, not a wrinkle here. And your hair needs to be this long. And if it's not, it's it's most of the time it's external. We're compared to each other externally. Right. But then, you know, in the church world I think it's different. It's not as external. It's more like how holy you are. How long your skirt is. You know, all of these weird things that I don't really understand, but I think that's one of the biggest attack that there is on women is the attack of comparison. And and I think it's because women are so powerful when they're together. Like, there's nothing like you are in a changing room. We got each other. Yeah. Like, hey, I'll do this. I'll do that. Like we're hyping. Each other up. Like we see that community between women. You're like, there's nothing like it. I know men out there. God bless you. But women together is like this. Like they're like. Nurturers. They're like, you're like moms. Yeah. Come here. I'm going to take care of you. Right, right. And then so I feel like that's why the attack is there with comparison. It's so that there's no community to break, so that you break that community so that you feel isolated. And I think when you can get a girl alone, you know, a lot of damage is done. Yeah. You know, a lot of damage is done. We're better together. And so, I, I feel like if there's anything I've learned in my very short 28 years of life, is that there's always going to be someone that's prettier than you. Always. There's always going to be someone who has a skinnier wasting you, who is smarter than you, who has a bigger following. The new. Who. Whatever. Like insert measurement here that you feel like you don't have. And the Bible literally tells you how to combat this, which is crazy. Yeah. So in Second Corinthians 1012 it says, when you measure yourself by one another and compare yourselves with one another, you are without understanding. So when you measure yourself by one another and compare yourself with one another, you are without understanding, meaning. That comparison is rooted in misunderstanding of who God is and who you are. So when you don't know who you are, you're going to compare yourself. When you don't know who God is, you're going to compare yourself. Yes. And so it goes. Back to which I was telling you earlier, there's like a huge theme in all of this, which is identity, which is the biggest, I feel is the biggest attack over our generation is identity. Like number one by far. Identity is like the cause of most issues. And so to be free from this trap, you have to know who you are in Christ and who God says you are. Secondly, Galatians six four through five says, each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves. Alone. Without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one will carry their own load. Yes, very fancy way to say if you are going to focus on your own actions, you test those actions you say is this honoring to God? Is is not honoring to God? Am I walking in the way that is worthy of the calling which is? I wrote it here as well walk worthy. Ephesians 41I therefore urge you, a prisoner for the Lord to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called. Right? So to walk literally in this scripture means to behave, oops, sorry, to behave, to conduct yourselves, and to live. So if I'm testing my own actions and I'm saying, am I walking worthy of my calling, right? I'm looking at myself, Karen, and I'm saying, am I living? Am I behaving, and am I conducting myself in a way that a follower of Christ should? Which is how, to walk in a way that is loving, patient, kind, the fruits of the spirit? We're all going to fall short. I'm not telling you, you have to be perfect. It doesn't say to walk in like you don't need to be perfect. Yes. But yeah. So that's, in my opinion, how you're going to be able to walk in that freedom. Yeah. And so God is going to hold you accountable. Like we mentioned earlier. To what you do. With your time, your talents, your things. And that is really sobering because it can be very easy, at least for me. I don't know about you how you guys probably struggle with this, but to be like, well, this person didn't like, help me. I'm struggling with this and you know, all of these things. And it's sobering to think, okay, as I focus on this girl that I don't even know that I you may even sit here and compare yourself to me. Please don't like I'm not. So you can compare yourself to this five second clip, ten second clip that you see on social media and say, man, if I prayed like her, maybe that's the only time she prayed that week. Yeah. Man, if I had a marriage like hers, maybe they literally don't even like each other behind closer. Look, you're comparing yourself to something that you don't even know. But when you test your own actions, when you walk worthy of the call that the Lord has placed in you, then you will recognize, hey, God is going to hold me accountable, right? And so I want to make sure that I'm doing it and living in a way that I can be called faithful to what I did. And the last thing is, when you're tempted to compare, meditate on this verse. For you created my inmost being. You knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I think in a world where, like everything is mass produced and everything is like. Just like it just. Copies, you feel like a copy. You feel like another number. You feel like another thing, like you have to recognize you. You're unique. You are one. There's no one else like you. Not to make you prideful, but to remind you like I am made in the image of God. Yes, this girl is made in God's image too. She's amazing. God bless her. God use her. But what you're doing in me is is good. It's I'm grateful for it. And as I'm faithful with this, the Lord will bless me with more. So I love that that's so good. And I think, you know, you talked a little bit about the church culture, but, you know, there is there's kind of this thing where a lot of times people go to church and paint on their church face. You know, I you've seen the memes and things online where it's like, you know, the family pulling up to church and the moms screaming at the kids the whole way there. But then they get there and they're like, hey, everything's great, you know? But we go to church sometimes and we're so afraid to be vulnerable and to really show who we are and the struggles that we have. I think that does a huge disservice to the body, because each and every one of us, you know, we're not perfect and we all have things that we struggle with. So what can we do as Christian women in the church to be more vulnerable? Because I think it's important for even the the younger generations that are still coming up to be able to see that, to see that through our imperfect nature. You know, God uses that. And, you know, through art, our trials and tribulations, you know, he grows us. And there is a purpose to all of that. So what is what is your thoughts on that? And what are some advice maybe that you could offer to Christian women? Yeah, I'm going to talk to two groups. The moms like the older maybe older generation, that you've already been past that like really struggle like big struggle with comparison. Maybe in your 20s, in your 30s, or even in that age. I think it's important for you guys to share your story. Yeah. And to be like, real. I don't crucify me older generation. But like, I. Feel like a lot of the older generation, they kind of like to live in this, like what you were saying. Yes. Everything that happens in my house happens in my house. You're not going to find out about it, right? You're not. Everything's perfect. Right? Nothing happens. And I don't know why that is to be honest, I don't understand. But that's fine if that's how you want to live your life. But there's a lot of young women that are hurting. That don't have moms that don't have dads that are lost and they need you to sit with them at coffee, take them out to lunch and say, hey, like, I want to pour some identity into you. Yeah, I want to tell you that when I was in your shoes, this is what I struggled with. But God is greater. And we need to see those women that have. Through the. Years, like, been able to say, no, God is good and he is going to take you through this. And I'm blessed to have women like that in my life who I can call. And because of their faithfulness and their availability, they have truly impacted my life. Right? And I. Can assure you, some of them, sometimes I call her and she's like in the car line with her kid screaming in the back of them. Like, I'm literally struggling today. She's like, hey, be quiet. I don't know exactly like I know the Lord. And I'm like, wow, that's so good. Amen. You know? Yeah, it's because you have this wisdom that it's not wisdom that you read on a quote. It's something that you've lived and you earned with time. That's right. You know, and so I think it's important that older generation to be vulnerable. Like, stop trying to pretend like your life is perfect. It's not like, oh, no, it's not. And right. That's how you build trust with. Yeah. With the younger generation is because they're craving, like real authentic. They're living in a digital age where everything is filtered fake any. But everybody poses their highlights. So when they have a real, authentic conversation with someone that's like, oh, by the way, like, I literally don't have it together, girl, like, trust me, I understand. Or like, oh, I'm not gonna say fear, you know? Yeah, I feel like I can actually open up to you. And so that's my advice to the more seasoned woman of God. And then, you know, the younger girls. Girl, you. Know, you. It's to be hard, okay? It's going to be hard, but encourage each other. Like, instead of. Comparing each other to each other. Instead of looking at each other left and right and tearing each other down, like, why don't you be that girl? That's like the ultimate cheerleader. Yeah. And when the enemy tries to I for me, it's like very specific people that whole put in my mind to like, compare myself to. I just are praying for them. Love that. Yeah. I literally just harp on like, God bless them. God use them. God keep increasing. God. Yeah. She is so beautiful. Thank you Lord that you made her this beautiful. And you made me beautiful too. And you gave me these things. And so just remind yourself constantly like, hey, what she has doesn't mean that what I have is any less. And I am just here to be faithful with what's in front of me. And there's going to be little girls that are looking up to you. That's right. And so watch what you say around them. Yeah. Watch how you look at yourself. Sometimes I struggle with this. Look at yourself in the mirror and nitpick yourself. Yeah. In front of your younger sibling or in front of, you know, a little girl. Like, remind them like, hey, your beauty doesn't come from your looks. That's right. They come from who God made you and and start to instill that in them from a young age so that when they get older, they won't have to struggle with as much things as absolutely. Yeah, I love that. And you're even talking a little bit about the the Paul, the Barnabus but Timothy relationship, you know, that is kind of our discipleship model that is kind of given to us in the Bible. So, you know, you should have somebody older and wiser and somebody younger that you're helping to disciple and bring up. So I think that's a great model for us all to live with. Well, with that, we're going to take a quick pause on this episode, and we're actually going to come back to this, this episode with part two. We're actually going to bring your husband Jacob in for a conversation. We've got to dive into technology, youth, and all the more so we'll be back in episode two. We'll see you next time. Oh.